Jaime Loves Stuff : *Warning: Expletives* The Life of Raising a Child with a Traumatic Brain Injury


*Warning: Expletives* The Life of Raising a Child with a Traumatic Brain Injury

Raising a child is difficult. Raising a child with special needs is even more difficult. Raising a child who has special needs because of a traumatic brain injury is even more difficult. There is no rhyme or reason to some of Emma's idiosyncrasies. What worked yesterday, won't work today, what worked today, won't work tomorrow. It's a cyclical issue. Emma's brain is misfiring. She explodes. She doesn't mean to. She has no control. She sometimes can't control her impulsiveness. Many educators DO NOT UNDERSTAND brain injuries and that creates frustration for the classroom, for Emma and myself. I bawled. I bawled really hard Friday. I wanted to just run away from everything. I didn't sign up for this! My daughter was born healthy and normal! I DIDN'T DO THIS TO HER! SO WHY AM I SUFFERING THE CONSEQUENCES OF SOMEBODY ELSE'S ACTIONS? I know why... I am her mom. I love her and I just want her to be okay. I can't NOT help her. There are a lot of things going on with Emma and I can't explain them, I don't have the answers. I have been asked if she is on any medications for her mood swings and anger/explosive issues. My answer is: NO. Her issues are NOT psychiatric. Her issues boil down to her brain is not functioning properly! Sure, she can be medicated but it won't do a single thing to help with the problems she has! What she needs is coping skills! She needs to learn how to calm herself BEFORE she explodes. Her teachers need to learn to recognize the signs and symptoms BEFORE she explodes to help her help herself before she escalates. I can't give them answers. I can't see what is going on in the classroom. I can't. She will NEVER behave that way in front of me so I can only give them the best tips that I can.

My heart is broken. I cry for her. I cry for the frustrations she has and the fact that I don't know how to fix it! I just want her to be in control of herself and to have fun at school, at her after school program and other aspects of her life and to not be so angry! Damnit. Why? Why did she have to have this happen to her? WHY US????

All I can say is this: FUCK YOU TOM. FUCK YOU FOR WHAT YOU DID TO EMMA! FUCK YOU FOR LEAVING A TRAIL OF DEVASTATION THAT I AM HAVING TO CLEAN UP! FUCK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!! FUCK YOU FOR SHAKING MY DAUGHTER!!!! FUCKYOUFUCKYOUFUCKYOUFUCKYOUFUCKYOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Before being injured:
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A couple years after injury:
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After years of therapy:
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5 comments:

  1. I'm a pretty tough person (having gone through a lot of shit in my life) but reading your post makes ME want to cry. I hope that asshole is in jail, for a long time. I've seen a couple of other kids that have brain injuries from being shaken and each one a slightly different. But with them all is the underlying thread of not being able to retain at all times the information they need to function "normally" and it's very hard for others to understand it.

    I feel for you, you're right that it's not fair and you didn't sign up for this. Must be frustrating as hell. I hope you have people around you that are able to help when it gets overwhelming. Maybe you can find some articles on this type of brain injury that would help her teachers understand? Is she in a regular class? Because the average teacher really doesn't know how to deal with special needs. They should be able to access some sort of training or SOMETHING that will help them cope in the classroom and will help your daughter cope.

    Hang in there - just from what I've read in the past from your blog (I do lurk, rarely comment) it seems that most of the time you have things under control. But sometimes I know it just gets overwhelming, for all of us with what ever our issues are.
    So have some internet hugs and hug your baby too.

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  2. My heart is breaking right along with you. I can't tell you why this happened to the two of you, but I can tell you that you're an amazing woman and that Emma is lucky to have you as a mom. And screaming "Fuck You" every now and then really does make you feel better! *hugs*

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  3. Emma is so blessed to have you as a mother. You should be able to cuss, scream, and yell all you need to.

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  4. I am so sorry...it doesn't seem fair at all - to you or Emma. She is so lucky to have you. I don't understand how someone could ever shake a child...that breaks my heart to no end. HUGS.

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  5. Thank you for sharing on my blog about my sister. It's so sad to see these things happen to anybody, especially kids. Your daughter is beautiful, just like her mother and you're doing a wonderful job raising her. HUGS

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